Reviving Ophelia; Saving the Selves of Adolesent Gils
By Mary Pipher P.H.D.
My angle for this post was to discuss the experienc eof school through a female's perspective. Being a girl myself, I only know of my time at school through the eyes of a white middle class girl. But through reading Reviving Ophelia I've realized that my situation isn't so different from the ones of others girls, in different places at different times.
We all know students don't go to school JUST to learn about American History and Algebra. There are many componenets thats add up to the experience of going to school as a WHOLE.
For instance, networking. At school, you have to interact with all sorts of people in order to get through the day. When entering in the morning, your greeted by secutirty, a symbol for your safety. Walking up to stairs, your passed by your peers; signifying that your not the only soul seeking an education. Entering the classroom your welcomed by the teacher; the authority figure, the source of knowledge you are expected to absorb. And finally, if your unlucky, you'll be graced with the pressance of one of the acceptions. Seeing a principal, guidance conslor or the nurse for and such reason.
All these people have titles and jobs that make up the school as a whole. Although, this list doesn't include the people who you don't see that make a big difference to the school if they were absent. Like the janitors, lunch people or office staff.
None of this actually directly related to Reviving Ohelia, I'm just making the point that in order to function well, communication is crucial. But we don't always communicate to the people who may deserve it the most.
Anyways, back to the book.
Monday, March 22, 2010
hw 45: more BIG thoughts on school
Comparisons between E.D. Hirsch & Ted Sizer.
Hirsch and Sizer had very conflicting perspectives on education. While Hirsch beleived in cultral literacy,
Hirsh argues that in order to do well in the school system, students must know the fudemental historical facts
Hirsch and Sizer had very conflicting perspectives on education. While Hirsch beleived in cultral literacy,
Hirsh argues that in order to do well in the school system, students must know the fudemental historical facts
Thursday, March 18, 2010
Hw: 44 Big expectations for school.
Pertaining to my personal experience in school, I have come to realize that school puts an enormous amount of strain and stress on students lives, where they choose to relieve through digital distractions and social outings. With each passing year, students become more exposed to alternative choices, and it becomes increasingly more hard to please their parents and teachers when they also want to entertain themselves.
I am of course referring to the weekend lifestyle that at times clashes with the responsibility to do well i school. I don't have statistics to support my argument, but I've come to notice that those individuals with highly enjoyable social lives don't score as high on their report cards as students whose parents keep them inside on Friday and Saturday nights.
Those same individuals also have a duty to keep up their party going reputations by having nice bodies, trendy wardrobes and attractive demeanor. That means more time shopping or at the gym and less time studying.
There seems to be some kind of correlation between socializing and academic performance. The more one dedicates to networking and social climbing the less likely that they do well in school. The more one spends studying and getting good grades, the less likely they have a popular social circle and attend exclusive binge drinking fests.
Looking back on my report cards over the years, I realized I did the best in school when I was in 6th grade. This may be because we didn't yet have to take a language, or because I really had a non existent social life. 6th grade was misery for me, yet I excelled more then I have since because I had more time to dedicate to homework rather then being on the phone for countless hours or hanging around outside. It was just me and my television that year.
But everything changed when I met my best friend in 7th grade. Then I talked more during class, was late from goofing off in the hallways and was on AIM every night for three hours straight, talking about bullshit. All because I had people who wanted to talk to me. I spent more time planning out what I was going to say on my xanga then I did writing an assignment. I left most work to morning advisory and put hardly any thought or effort into it, especially when there was an asian kid I could easily copy from.
I realize now that when I was sad or lonely I'd turn to work. but otherwise, if it didn't make me look cooler, I wouldn't be caught focusing on school work, even when my mother would beg me to do better.
Unless I got something out of it, I didn't bother trying hard when it came to middle school.
This trend followed me though my first two years of high school. Until I had a wake up call that colleges weren't looking for students who just got by, I was a bonafied slacker.
I know this post is more of a rant then a analysis of the institution of school, but there are so many contradictions that its hard to think straight or make a formal opinion.
At time I think we're not mature enough to really value education. In the book I'm reading entitled Reviving Ophelia, the author repeatedly states how difficult it is for adolescence to be their "true selves" when their so busy tweaking their "false selves" in order to please their peers.
At the same time its odd to me that so many authority figures keep drilling into our heads that in order to lead successful fulfilling lives, we must do as best we can in school. But as I see it, school brings kids great unhappiness.
Like George Vidal said in his article Drugs: case for Legalizing Marijuana; "Nevertheless, forbidding people things they like or think they might enjoy only makes them want those things all the more."
Of course, he was referring to the governments need to prohibit people from using drugs rather then legalizing them and allowing people to choose for themselves whether its worth experimenting.
But I believe that enforcing an form of institution on people who don't enjoy it many also make them resist it more. That's why college so many high school students look forward to college, because its a school experience where they get to choose what they want to learn rather then being forced to sit through a class they hate.
Like the author from the op- ed Liberal Arts Education: why it still matters,
This reminds me a lot of what Andy was getting at in Friday's (19th, so yes this post is OD late) class about how is we put more effort into the work we're assigned in class, many them we would make more enriched decisions later in life. But I think this works better in an enviornment were the student is given a choice to be there or not.
We all want an education so that we can go farther in life, but it matter what you do with that education in order to truly turn it into success. If a kid doesn't put their all into their work, then it may be like the lesson was for nothing. I concur that some students may take the education they feel they are "entitled to" and that what other kids would kill for in less fortunate countries. But why waste time in classes we can't stand?
I love English and History class, and greatly look forward to them, especially when I'm sitting in math class drooling with frustration and boredom. I take an English college class at Baruch where I feel excited to learn and its not such a big hassle doing the homework because I actually like what I'm writing about. If I had that same attitude for every class I took in High School, I may be taking straight A's. But I'm not.
What I have realize, though, and this applies to what Andy has been emphasizing in the many movies we're watched, was that when a teacher gets excited about the subject their teaching, he students do as well. I know this thanks to Mr. Z, who not only loves what he does but also shows much respect and admiration when his students get his lessons. He is patient when a formula is hard to understand, yet assertive in tolerating those who give up too easily, encouraging them to try again.
Although he doesn't take all the credit, its clear he cares about us kids and that makes us want to make him all the more proud.
I also have to give Andy and Mr. Manley a little credit for their teaching tactics. I like that they hardly stand behind their desks in, or give lectures to the class. They set up wide open circles and usually teach lessons through a group conversation where they encourage comments and questions rather them demanding obedience. It makes me feel like more of their equal rather then someone who MUST listen to them. Although it may make it harder to quiet down a class, it also makes it easier to open up and answer questions honestly and without hesitation.
I enjoyed the article from Pennlive.com because it rephrases many of the reasons why I want to attend a liberal arts college, on aspect in particular because they encourage studying abroad
Beatrice and I were agreeing with the point brought up in class that most schools attract a certain demographic of people and breed out clones of their parents. For instance, a kid whose father works on wall street would naturally attend a prestigious private school in order to make a high income to enjoy the luxurious lifestyle he has in is youth in his adulthood as well.
At the same time, a kid whose father works two blue collar jobs may attend a violent public school, where he just gets by in order to get his high school diploma and go to a community college, leading him back to the same neighborhood he grew up with less opportunity to make it in any environment.
There's not much room to try things out.
I am of course referring to the weekend lifestyle that at times clashes with the responsibility to do well i school. I don't have statistics to support my argument, but I've come to notice that those individuals with highly enjoyable social lives don't score as high on their report cards as students whose parents keep them inside on Friday and Saturday nights.
Those same individuals also have a duty to keep up their party going reputations by having nice bodies, trendy wardrobes and attractive demeanor. That means more time shopping or at the gym and less time studying.
There seems to be some kind of correlation between socializing and academic performance. The more one dedicates to networking and social climbing the less likely that they do well in school. The more one spends studying and getting good grades, the less likely they have a popular social circle and attend exclusive binge drinking fests.
Looking back on my report cards over the years, I realized I did the best in school when I was in 6th grade. This may be because we didn't yet have to take a language, or because I really had a non existent social life. 6th grade was misery for me, yet I excelled more then I have since because I had more time to dedicate to homework rather then being on the phone for countless hours or hanging around outside. It was just me and my television that year.
But everything changed when I met my best friend in 7th grade. Then I talked more during class, was late from goofing off in the hallways and was on AIM every night for three hours straight, talking about bullshit. All because I had people who wanted to talk to me. I spent more time planning out what I was going to say on my xanga then I did writing an assignment. I left most work to morning advisory and put hardly any thought or effort into it, especially when there was an asian kid I could easily copy from.
I realize now that when I was sad or lonely I'd turn to work. but otherwise, if it didn't make me look cooler, I wouldn't be caught focusing on school work, even when my mother would beg me to do better.
Unless I got something out of it, I didn't bother trying hard when it came to middle school.
This trend followed me though my first two years of high school. Until I had a wake up call that colleges weren't looking for students who just got by, I was a bonafied slacker.
I know this post is more of a rant then a analysis of the institution of school, but there are so many contradictions that its hard to think straight or make a formal opinion.
At time I think we're not mature enough to really value education. In the book I'm reading entitled Reviving Ophelia, the author repeatedly states how difficult it is for adolescence to be their "true selves" when their so busy tweaking their "false selves" in order to please their peers.
At the same time its odd to me that so many authority figures keep drilling into our heads that in order to lead successful fulfilling lives, we must do as best we can in school. But as I see it, school brings kids great unhappiness.
Like George Vidal said in his article Drugs: case for Legalizing Marijuana; "Nevertheless, forbidding people things they like or think they might enjoy only makes them want those things all the more."
Of course, he was referring to the governments need to prohibit people from using drugs rather then legalizing them and allowing people to choose for themselves whether its worth experimenting.
But I believe that enforcing an form of institution on people who don't enjoy it many also make them resist it more. That's why college so many high school students look forward to college, because its a school experience where they get to choose what they want to learn rather then being forced to sit through a class they hate.
Like the author from the op- ed Liberal Arts Education: why it still matters,
"Studying the arts nurtures an appreciation for the richness and endless diversity of human imagination.
"The point is that it is not so much the specific content of our courses that is at the core of the liberal arts experience, rather the value is in a way of learning" This reminds me a lot of what Andy was getting at in Friday's (19th, so yes this post is OD late) class about how is we put more effort into the work we're assigned in class, many them we would make more enriched decisions later in life. But I think this works better in an enviornment were the student is given a choice to be there or not.
We all want an education so that we can go farther in life, but it matter what you do with that education in order to truly turn it into success. If a kid doesn't put their all into their work, then it may be like the lesson was for nothing. I concur that some students may take the education they feel they are "entitled to" and that what other kids would kill for in less fortunate countries. But why waste time in classes we can't stand?
I love English and History class, and greatly look forward to them, especially when I'm sitting in math class drooling with frustration and boredom. I take an English college class at Baruch where I feel excited to learn and its not such a big hassle doing the homework because I actually like what I'm writing about. If I had that same attitude for every class I took in High School, I may be taking straight A's. But I'm not.
What I have realize, though, and this applies to what Andy has been emphasizing in the many movies we're watched, was that when a teacher gets excited about the subject their teaching, he students do as well. I know this thanks to Mr. Z, who not only loves what he does but also shows much respect and admiration when his students get his lessons. He is patient when a formula is hard to understand, yet assertive in tolerating those who give up too easily, encouraging them to try again.
Although he doesn't take all the credit, its clear he cares about us kids and that makes us want to make him all the more proud.
I also have to give Andy and Mr. Manley a little credit for their teaching tactics. I like that they hardly stand behind their desks in, or give lectures to the class. They set up wide open circles and usually teach lessons through a group conversation where they encourage comments and questions rather them demanding obedience. It makes me feel like more of their equal rather then someone who MUST listen to them. Although it may make it harder to quiet down a class, it also makes it easier to open up and answer questions honestly and without hesitation.
I enjoyed the article from Pennlive.com because it rephrases many of the reasons why I want to attend a liberal arts college, on aspect in particular because they encourage studying abroad
"Many Gettysburg students spend a semester or more abroad in a cultural context different from their own. These kinds of experiences cultivate the humility, open mindedness, dedication to dialogue and respect for multiple perspectives that support meaningful engagement with the world and enhance our graduates' ability to have an impact on their professions and on their communities."
Perhaps if more teenage New Yorkers saw the hardship other communities endured, even in their own city, they would value their education all the more, and for reasons other then in attempts to make big bucks like the hot shot they see on Wall Street. Why is education strictly seen as a source of power rather then being a good person? Do we need to have lush living in order to be happy? Beatrice and I were agreeing with the point brought up in class that most schools attract a certain demographic of people and breed out clones of their parents. For instance, a kid whose father works on wall street would naturally attend a prestigious private school in order to make a high income to enjoy the luxurious lifestyle he has in is youth in his adulthood as well.
At the same time, a kid whose father works two blue collar jobs may attend a violent public school, where he just gets by in order to get his high school diploma and go to a community college, leading him back to the same neighborhood he grew up with less opportunity to make it in any environment.
There's not much room to try things out.
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Hw 42: Book Research and further thinking
In the book Reviving Ophilia, the author Mary Pipher brings up a valid issue that effects the behaviors of teenage girls; puberty.
According to Freud, there is a phase called the Latency period where girls are confronted with the issue of sexuality, but not yet burdened with the hormonal effects the hit after their prepubescent years. In this time, children tend to put all that repressed energy into asexual activities like sports, music and same sex friendships. According to the research David B. Stevenson did on Freud's theory, untitled Freud's Psycho-sexual Stages of Development:
The resolution of the phallic stage leads to the latency period, which is not a psychosexual stage of development, but a period in which the sexual drive lies dormant. Freud saw latency as a period of unparalleled repression of sexual desires and erogenous impulses.
So when those hormones start raging, their confusion and need for a sexual identity dominate their mind body and spirits, turning them into different people. Freud called this the genital stage; "As the child's energy once again focuses on his genitals, interest turns to heterosexual relationships. The less energy the child has left invested in unresolved psychosexual developments, the greater his capacity will be to develop normal relationships with the opposite sex."
Their curiosity is curved from books and nature to the opposite sex (or rather desired sex) and physicality. If they do not meet the definition of what society defines as "desierable" they obsess to meet such social norms. Girls slave away hours at the gym just to be the right pants size, spend hundreds of dollars on products and puts an enormous amount of effort into pleasing people who are just as desperate as they are. They begin to care more about social norms and sexual expectations rather then intellectual ambitions. Their attitudes change towards their parents and siblings as they transform into rude, confused and frustrated teenagers.
This plays into their performance in school, because what they once found intriguing and interesting no longer appeals or is significant to their other priorities; sex. It becomes significantly more difficult from then on to keep motivations in school and extra curricular since they have the burden of trying to keep up a social life on top of that. Of course this doesn't apply to all teenagers, but has been a reoccurring pattern in the age group.
In Full Frontal Feminism, Jessica Valenti focuses a nice portion of her book to how crucial it is for girls to receive a proper education, especially in countries that refuse schooling for girls.
Another book that has been fervently pushing the importance of education in order to have less oppression and better opportunities was Half the Sky, written by a New York Times columnist.
Valentti also highlights the constant double standard that exists in comparing girls to boys. Boys are naturally destined to go farther, make more money and run all the major corporations that make up American consumerism. Even though women have made tremendous progress in the professional frield, we still only make 77 cents to every dollar a man makes.
A lot of her arguments play into the attitudes people have against girls in school. Girls who have reformed style, square attitudes and a respectable demeanor would naturally have good grades and a bright future, whereas those who are more in touch with their sexuality and freedomn of expression (or rebellion) are seen as disobedient and mischievous, with bad grades. This striked a thought for where personal expression can fit into the structured lessons in school. What if a student doens't agree with the tactics of a project of the facts in a history presentation. Why must we be forced to participate in subjects we don't relate to and topics that don't interest us. Why is sex always associated with our value? If girls aren't ashamed of their sexuality, their trouble makers. If they're prude, their more obedient and therefore better to control. Why aren't guys seperated to these sex classes as well?
According to Freud, there is a phase called the Latency period where girls are confronted with the issue of sexuality, but not yet burdened with the hormonal effects the hit after their prepubescent years. In this time, children tend to put all that repressed energy into asexual activities like sports, music and same sex friendships. According to the research David B. Stevenson did on Freud's theory, untitled Freud's Psycho-sexual Stages of Development:
The resolution of the phallic stage leads to the latency period, which is not a psychosexual stage of development, but a period in which the sexual drive lies dormant. Freud saw latency as a period of unparalleled repression of sexual desires and erogenous impulses.
So when those hormones start raging, their confusion and need for a sexual identity dominate their mind body and spirits, turning them into different people. Freud called this the genital stage; "As the child's energy once again focuses on his genitals, interest turns to heterosexual relationships. The less energy the child has left invested in unresolved psychosexual developments, the greater his capacity will be to develop normal relationships with the opposite sex."
Their curiosity is curved from books and nature to the opposite sex (or rather desired sex) and physicality. If they do not meet the definition of what society defines as "desierable" they obsess to meet such social norms. Girls slave away hours at the gym just to be the right pants size, spend hundreds of dollars on products and puts an enormous amount of effort into pleasing people who are just as desperate as they are. They begin to care more about social norms and sexual expectations rather then intellectual ambitions. Their attitudes change towards their parents and siblings as they transform into rude, confused and frustrated teenagers.
This plays into their performance in school, because what they once found intriguing and interesting no longer appeals or is significant to their other priorities; sex. It becomes significantly more difficult from then on to keep motivations in school and extra curricular since they have the burden of trying to keep up a social life on top of that. Of course this doesn't apply to all teenagers, but has been a reoccurring pattern in the age group.
In Full Frontal Feminism, Jessica Valenti focuses a nice portion of her book to how crucial it is for girls to receive a proper education, especially in countries that refuse schooling for girls.
Another book that has been fervently pushing the importance of education in order to have less oppression and better opportunities was Half the Sky, written by a New York Times columnist.
Valentti also highlights the constant double standard that exists in comparing girls to boys. Boys are naturally destined to go farther, make more money and run all the major corporations that make up American consumerism. Even though women have made tremendous progress in the professional frield, we still only make 77 cents to every dollar a man makes.
A lot of her arguments play into the attitudes people have against girls in school. Girls who have reformed style, square attitudes and a respectable demeanor would naturally have good grades and a bright future, whereas those who are more in touch with their sexuality and freedomn of expression (or rebellion) are seen as disobedient and mischievous, with bad grades. This striked a thought for where personal expression can fit into the structured lessons in school. What if a student doens't agree with the tactics of a project of the facts in a history presentation. Why must we be forced to participate in subjects we don't relate to and topics that don't interest us. Why is sex always associated with our value? If girls aren't ashamed of their sexuality, their trouble makers. If they're prude, their more obedient and therefore better to control. Why aren't guys seperated to these sex classes as well?
Monday, February 22, 2010
Hw 41: Initial Internet Research on Schooling
Recently I've become very interested in feminism and have started reading books on women's oppression is today's media and society. Throughout most of history women generally have had fewer legal rights and career opportunities than men. Although women have come a long way in fighting for equality, there is still great inequality that exists in the work place and even at home. I've become fervent about shaking the vulgar stereotypes women are labeled with and desire to exterminate the constant double standards that hurt and degrade women.
I was reading an Article by Jessica Valenti that was in the Washington post that discussed how women's oppression still very must exists today, emphasising in the amount of violence that is targeted towards women.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/02/19/AR2010021902049.html
Although this doesn't directly have to do with women's experience with education in past history, I feel it is significant to highlight the overall struggle women still face in a male dominant world, even after everything they've overcome. Girls in third world countries are not even given the option to schooling, let alone the opportunities available in America. Historically women have been considered not only physically inferior to men but also intelectually.
Keeping that in mind, there is still a long ways journey for womens equality to go. I beleive that a women's work must begin in the classroom, that in order to truly go anywere in this scoeity we must first have a strong foundation of education behind us, because naturally one of the main components of school is to teach students how to communicate well.
And thats what we need, to communicate and advocate that women should no longer be seen as weaker then men in any setting prodominately
But even so, women who are highly successful don't quite meet the bar the men are set on. Valenti was mentioning in her article "The distressing statistics don't stop with violence: Women hold 17 percent of the seats in Congress; abortion is legal, but more than 85 percent of counties in the United States have no provider; women work outside the home, but they make about 76 cents to a man's dollar and make up the majority of Americans living in poverty."
I begin to wonder when women will legitamitely be in the same lauge as men, and how we could have let it be so unbalanced all this time.
Because in fact, more women are going to college over ment these days.
Of course, an important place to focus on is the opportunites of education. Formal education for girls historically has been secondary to that for boys. From the get-go, women have had to fight for their right to be given a proper education. Men were seen as superiors, the bread winners and source of income, whereas women were expected to look after the home and comfort their men when they came home from a long days work, in addition to bearing and raising children.
Although it didn't start out that way, by the end of the 19th century the nuber of female students had increased greatly from just the standard dame school that only taught girls how to read and write. More boys went on to higher education instead of girls because it was expected for girls to just carry out their womenly duties in the home, which didn't require advanced learning.
Obviously the tables have turned today, and women have grown to be more independent and less reliable on a mans paycheck.
Source 1: http://www.pdhre.org/rights/women_and_education.html
But even so, just gaining constitutional rights wasn't enough to stop prejudice from men.
It wasn't until the the 1940s, when so many men were in military service, that women got the chance to demonstrate that they could do "men's" jobs as well as the men could. A lot of the wives and mothers had to step into male dominated jobs when their husbands and fathers were off fighting in war, and many realized that they could do just as well, if not better. From then on the fight against oppression in the workplace began.
http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/02/22/gender-trade-offs/?emc=eta1
Women's struggle has made them more prone to work harder for what they don't have. More girls go to college then boys.
I was reading an Article by Jessica Valenti that was in the Washington post that discussed how women's oppression still very must exists today, emphasising in the amount of violence that is targeted towards women.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/02/19/AR2010021902049.html
Although this doesn't directly have to do with women's experience with education in past history, I feel it is significant to highlight the overall struggle women still face in a male dominant world, even after everything they've overcome. Girls in third world countries are not even given the option to schooling, let alone the opportunities available in America. Historically women have been considered not only physically inferior to men but also intelectually.
Keeping that in mind, there is still a long ways journey for womens equality to go. I beleive that a women's work must begin in the classroom, that in order to truly go anywere in this scoeity we must first have a strong foundation of education behind us, because naturally one of the main components of school is to teach students how to communicate well.
And thats what we need, to communicate and advocate that women should no longer be seen as weaker then men in any setting prodominately
But even so, women who are highly successful don't quite meet the bar the men are set on. Valenti was mentioning in her article "The distressing statistics don't stop with violence: Women hold 17 percent of the seats in Congress; abortion is legal, but more than 85 percent of counties in the United States have no provider; women work outside the home, but they make about 76 cents to a man's dollar and make up the majority of Americans living in poverty."
I begin to wonder when women will legitamitely be in the same lauge as men, and how we could have let it be so unbalanced all this time.
Because in fact, more women are going to college over ment these days.
Of course, an important place to focus on is the opportunites of education. Formal education for girls historically has been secondary to that for boys. From the get-go, women have had to fight for their right to be given a proper education. Men were seen as superiors, the bread winners and source of income, whereas women were expected to look after the home and comfort their men when they came home from a long days work, in addition to bearing and raising children.
Although it didn't start out that way, by the end of the 19th century the nuber of female students had increased greatly from just the standard dame school that only taught girls how to read and write. More boys went on to higher education instead of girls because it was expected for girls to just carry out their womenly duties in the home, which didn't require advanced learning.
Obviously the tables have turned today, and women have grown to be more independent and less reliable on a mans paycheck.
Source 1: http://www.pdhre.org/rights/women_and_education.html
But even so, just gaining constitutional rights wasn't enough to stop prejudice from men.
It wasn't until the the 1940s, when so many men were in military service, that women got the chance to demonstrate that they could do "men's" jobs as well as the men could. A lot of the wives and mothers had to step into male dominated jobs when their husbands and fathers were off fighting in war, and many realized that they could do just as well, if not better. From then on the fight against oppression in the workplace began.
http://economix.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/02/22/gender-trade-offs/?emc=eta1
Women's struggle has made them more prone to work harder for what they don't have. More girls go to college then boys.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Hw 40: Interviews on School
My fortune cookie for the day: Faithless is he who quits when the road darkens.
Part A
Family Interview:
Robert Proto (54)- A high school and college graduate with a Bachelors degree in Business Administration from Baruch. He's lived in New York's LES all his life, attended a Parochial private High School, but transferred to public school for his in his sophomore year because he didn't like strict atmosphere of private school and he felt out of place and too immature there. He was apprehensive to go to public school at first because it had a reputation of being dangerous in those days, but at the time he was glad he transferred because it was easier.
Q: Do you regret transferring?
"In a lot of ways I regret it now because I feel like a quitter, I think I would have amounted out to more if I stuck it out and rose to the challenge."
Q: What do you think about your kids going to public school?
"The public School system today is considered safer, and since its not cheap to go to private school, I found a good public high schools for my daughters. I feel guilty some days for not giving them the very best, considering it may have been easier for them to get into the colleges they want if they came from a well known school."
Q: What did you want to get out of the education you pursued?
"One of the things I planned when I went to public HS was to take business courses, resorting to that because I didn't know what else to do with my life. I thought I'd be good at book keeping, the first step to accounting. I went to Baruch with intentions of studying to become an accountant. I got my first accounting course the second semester of my second year and got an A. When I got to my third year, I took the next step where my teacher said 'this is the class where we separate the men from the boys' and unfortunately I didn't do well. So the second term of my third year, instead of dropping accounting, I took the next course hoping I would improve; but I didn't. After I dropped accounting, I decided to pursue a field of computers. In my first semester of my 4Th year, but I didn't do very well but tried to continue in my second semester of my 4Th year. After the first or second week I felt lost, so I figure the best thing to do was drop out of college and just look for a job since I was making it at Baruch."
Q: How did it feel to be a college drop out?
"I felt very depressed and unsure of myself for dropping out, even though I felt out of place and lost being there. I was really concerned about how my mother would feel about me dropping out, and that made me hesitant. What finally put me at ease was a conversation with my younger brother.He told me he had talked to her about it, and that she had she said she knew I gave it a lot of thought and understood my decision.That gave me more courage to not be apprehensive about my instincts and just do what felt right."
One day Bob officially dropped out, and started looking for a job. His father made arrangements for interviews, and got hired as a senior clerk; a low level entry position in NYC health and Hospitals co.
"And that's where I met my wife who convinced me to get my bachelors because she said she wouldn't date anyone without a college degree. So a year after I left Baruch, I went back at night and finished me remaining courses. but I didn't attend my ceremony because I was embarrassed. I'm grateful to my wife for influencing me to go back."
Q- Would you ever go back to school?
"No. I don't have the motivation to put in the effort to go back to school to get another degree. I realize now how valuable education is, and I regret I never looked at it as a beneficial tool . It was only a burden and an unhappy experience. I'm sure If I had the chance to start over, I'd approach it more maturely. But I don't feel I want to pursue another degree because its no longer important or crucial for me in this time in my life. My wife always values education and rises to the challenge of education. I unfortunately don't rise to the challenge.
I always look at school as a negative experience in my life. I guess when I was a little child, I didn't want to be there and every year prior I felt upset because I wasn't very smart. I wasn't an ambitious individual and always wanted the easy way of life, not the challenge."
Q: What do you tell your kids about education, in respect to your experience?
I always wanted my wife to be the biggest influence on my kids to help them realize how crucial a good education is in life. Knowledge is power, and today I realize how true that is. Its power that can't be taken away from you. I hope that when my kids are in college, they realize how important it is to accomplish their goals. They talk about the "college experience" but I think that will only bring temporary happiness. I want my daughters to learn from my mistakes, and realize that its important to be the best person you can me . Sometimes its not always the person you wanted to become, but if you try to achieve what you want you can feel satisfied that you gave it your best. The only thing you should feel bad about in life is if you wanted something but didn't put in all the effort and regret it. But if you did put in your all, you would always know you gave tried. It doesn't mean your not successful, it just may mean that wasn't the right path for you and that you should look elsewhere."
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Jessica Proto (17)
Q:What has your experience with school been like?
Good, when I was in elementary school. I didn't have o do much, and life was easier. When I switched to a private Jewish reformed school in 4th grade, it was ok. The commuting was annoying but I liked being on the basketball team and being a part of something. Then I went to SOF for two years, which was ok at first but then got bad so I just stopped going. Then my parents forced me into a special private school called Robert Luis Stevenson. It was ok, I liked it but after a year I stopped going because it got stupid. Then my parents sent me away to boarding school which I hated at first but eventually got to liking because they has horse back riding and snow boarding and I made some friends. But these days I hate it because they treat people unfairly and look down on their students as delinquents and problem children.
Q:Whats your overall view of School?
"I don't really like school that much, I don't do homework or study for tests. Its stressful, I prefer doing projects because your given more time to do them then an assignment due the next day.
"My parents are influencing me to get my GED, but I'm not even sure if thats what I want. They expect me to be something I'm not. I don't always care about living up to their standards because I have my own. When I wanted to get my permit I got one...
I do want to go to college, but one my own terms and on my own time.
I want to be a social and child care worker when I grow up, so that I can help troubled people the way my social worker looks out for me."
Q: Whats the purpose of school?
To get an education, to learn new things in life. Its important to help you go somewhere i life, and without it you'll go nowhere.
Q:What have you leaned about yourself thanks to school?
Thanks to school, I've learned that I can be a fuck up. But that its important to do well and recognize when you need to make a change.
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Gail Proto (50) A Newtown High School and Baruch college graduate with a BBA in marketing and an MBA in business administration, she has worked for NYC Health and Hospitals Co for 32 years. Gail wasan only child born and raised in Jackson Hights Queens and aspired to be a clown as a child because she wanted to make people laugh.
Q: What is your greatest memory from High School?
"I was really good in this drama class, I surprised myself for having a little bit of talent. I had some wonderful friendships and it was fun getting to date a little bit. I remember being on the debate team and paper which was cool. It was an overall good experience, but I remember hating myself for not being cool enough by my own standards. I didn't find myself attractive until I was 18, so before then I was insecure especially due to my stutter."
Q: How was college?
"It was wonderful because I was away from home, making friends and was a growth experience. But it was helpful in a way that I was at a sleep away school for my first two years at Hofstra and then was forced to come home due to family problems where I then transfered to city school at Baruch. I was devistated having to leave, but then I realiozed how fun working was and even night school. People were much more interesting because they were actually in the business world. I had done book keeping work during the summers, so my first job wasn't so bad. My parents couldn't afford to send me away anymore, but making my own money felt so good that I didn't mind coming home so much."
Q: What are the motiviations of school?
"Its a wonderful educational and socializing experience. Theres emotional growith, there's intelectual growth and you learn to be part of a community. It teaches you how to deal with different tyoes of people. Whaen your in the working enviornemtn you have to deal with all different types of personalities, some being your bosses. I just love school. I love to grow and learn. I love it how when I learn one thing, all through out the day whovever I talk to, I can relate back to that thing. I find leanring fun, and RESEARCH is the most fun."
Q: Would you want to go back to school?
"I'm in school now! I'm taking a certificate program in Public Policy at the Murphy School of Professional Studies whick is a part of CUNY. Its exciting being back in school; enlightening because I feel like i'm growing again (at my age). And I'm planning on persuing a PHD next in... well i'm not sure yet, maybe public policy."
Q: What do you hope your kids will get out of School?
"I want them to get a good education. I hope they find a passion for something other then boys."
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Ahivah Ellner (57)- Went to Hunter College for nursing.
Q: When do you know you wanted to be a nurse?
"When I was 8 years old I was watching dr. Kildare, a show on T.V. and ever since I wanted to be a nurse."
Q: What was high school like for you?
"My parents moved from Manhatten to West chester which was a tramatic period in my life, I was a senior in High School. Initially, I didn't adjust well. But I eventually made friends with people who has similiar backgrounds as myself. I moved to a place of middle class to a place of higher class and could only relate to those more like myself. The students there lived in gated communities, the girls wore cahsmere sweaters. They all drove cars, and I came from the city to the subuors. I realized then that I was a true a city girl at heart, so I went to hunter colege in the city because it had a very good nursing program.
Q: What to you is the purpose of school?
I think basically what school does is give u a very basic foundation and requirements to get a degree. There aren't as many trade classes as there are profession classes. Trade classes are more done with your hands, but in this day and age its all about working at an office. White collar has better status then those who work with their hands and are blue collar. You don't need as much book knowledge as you may need for a business. But there plenty of people who are wildly successful who never went to college, like Bill gates.
Q: Would you ever go back to school?
"I would absolutely want to go back to school. I never went for my masters because getting my bachelors was so difficult. I regret it now, and therefore I will be looking into continuing education; even at my age. I have no ideas in what yet, perhaps for teaching purposes."
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Rebeca Vallejo (34)- Professional organizer/ musician (singer)
Q: What was School like in Spain?
"I was born and raised in Madrid, Spain. It was very different and the school system was really tough in Spain. You had so much to study and you had on entire year after high school and one year preparation for college entry exam According to the score on you exam, you are limited in choosing you field of study. In my own ranking I has an average score, I was really good in subjects and horrible in others. In the things I liked I put a lot of emphasis, and for the others I didn't care. But I wasn't required to take it because i was planning on going to college in Great Britain."
Q: What was the transition to college in another Country like?
"It was craziness to adapt at 19 to a different school system in a new country with a different language. Being on your own for the first time was tough, even by choice. Being away from your parents.
I went back to Spain for my masters when I was 22, for year and a half until I came to America. I wanted to pursue my dream of being a jazz singer, because where jazz was born. I worked and started my music career, started writing music and recorded my first album. About 5 years into moving here, I decided to go to city college for jazz studies."
Q: What was it like going back to school?
It was very very weird going back to school. There was a large variety of ages in my jazz program, all with the same goals as me. Sometimes int was strange learning in a classroom with people 10 years younger then me. It was a shocker, and I struggled a lot because I had to work a pay for school myself before I got a student loan. This was a very advanced program, so i had to catch up. It was very challenging.
But thank god I graduated with my degree, but my degree doesn't apply with anything I do now.
I have three degrees today, and thanks to my composition skills being stronger I got more confidence in my position, but now I am a professional organizer and I didn't really need any school for that.
It was an accident becoming an organizer. I realized I really liked space organizing,I have a mind for it. I started doing little jobs then by luck I was flipping through a magazine that spoke of space organizer. National Association of Professional Organizers, and it all kind of snowballed from there. That's also had its ups and downs, it was a bit slow in the beginning and hard in this economy.
My organizing profession kind of compliments my job as a Singer."
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Part B
People who are currently still in school greatly varry in answers to my questions then those who are done. The adults who I interviewed also varried in who was planning on going for another degree and the one who had no intentions on going back.
I got some really interesting insights, especially from my pops. He really kind of spooked me into beleiving that a life without the passion to learn is a life not worth living. Education is really the key to success, and although some may say ignorance is bliss, I've learning from my dad that knowledge has the power to make you happy. But having the patience and motivation to learn is hard work when your a teenager. Kids in American don't always appreciate what they've got unless their parents remind them of how lucky they got it. My parents had pretty comfortable lives themselves, so they have no need to lecture me on appreciation. But when I think of kids in 3rd world countries who are not so well off, I begin to feel selfish for not taking full advantage of the opportunities I am given so easily.
Another thing my dad brought up that no one else had was not feeling right for school. He had failed at the career he originally sought out and was ashamed for it. But he was more embarrassed with what his family, particularly his mother would think of him. I think in our society, school is considered so crucial for a fulfilling life that those who don't go are looked down upon, especially those who give up half way through. In my fathers case, he was just shy of graduating before he dropped out, something you rarely hear. But I see him as being brave, doing what he thought was right for him rather then right for fitting the mold of a twenty-something while blood American boy.
Its so imperative for students to be honest with themselves about what hey want and what their capable of so that they don't waste time pursuing a life they just THINK they want.
My dads response really sparked a lot of thought like that, which is why I liked his interview the best!
It seemed that for the younger subject (my older sis), she was more optimistic about the future. I mean Jessica and I have out whole lives ahead of us with an entire world to see and anything they can dream at their finger tips. Yet, according to the older prospects, all they need to succeed is to be driven and hard working.
Is it possible that having dreams just isn't enough to put it into action? I always thought having a goal at all was a huge first step, but when do we really learn the skills to make out dreams into a reality?
Are we given all the tools in High School to get into the right college that will help us the get the best job we can?
I'm beginning to believe its not always so easy, and even if your a braniac in school it doesn't necessarily mean your going to excel at what ever you do. Don't get m wrong, I'm sure it helps. But there are a lot of major components that add up to achievements. And this generation of teenagers usually learn this too late in the game.
I can't get out of my mind what Ben from East High said a couple weeks ago on the topic of the purpose of school:
"School is means to help students make choices and figure out how to put those choices in effect for the future." - Or something along those lines.
This got me thinking about the meaning of life and our unit of cool and all that fun stuff. We are sent out into society, given a system to follow then expected to know what to do once we hit the age or 22 and have already graduated college. I've been pampered, pressed and processed by my parents, teachers and bosses all to be molded into a good citizen of the united states. But has School really made me into the best person I can be?
Is it really all on us to make a good life for ourselvles, or should we hold some of these superiors responsible? And how can any of us ever know if the choices we're making are right? Isn't it all just trial and error? Then shouldn't we have more trials?
For the past hour, I haven't only been thinking about this institution of school but also how religious schools come into play. For instance sunday school, hebrew school, greek school? They are all additional suppliers of knowledge except its for a specific network of people belonging to that religion. I myself had to go to hebrew school from the age of 6 up until was 13. I couldn't have been more thrilled when I didn't have to go anymore. To me, those hebrew classes were agony. I didn't give a rats ass what the history of the Torah was. I realize now that all I was taught was valuable information about my culture, but at the time I was just bored out of my mind and counting down the minutes until I could be safe in my own household again.
When I look back, I wonder why my mother made me go all those years. I didn't get why she wanted me to be jewish so badly. She married me father and he wasn't jewish. Heck he isn't even religious at all. So why was she forcing traditions I loathed and ceremonies I didn't follow down my throat?
She said she wanted me to be a part of something bigger then myself, a way of having a closer relationship to god. But I didn't even know if I beleived in the guy, so it didn't really make a difference making an appearance at the synogouge every monday and wednesday. Evenetually I relaized it was all leading up to the big sacred honor; my batmitzvah.
According to wikipedia, a batmitzvah: "One of the most important events to take place during Jewish Education (LOL) is the celebration of the Bar or Batmitzvah... According to jewish law, a boy enters a adulthood at the age of 13, while a girl enters adulthood at the age of 12. The bar or bat mitzvah celebrates this coming of age and significes ones passage into adulthood."
Huh, I wonder how they landed on those ages. Because from person expereicne, my most immature ages probably ranged from 11 through 15.
My whole life I've had this aspect that religious is important shoved down my throat. I feel kind of cheated not because I was never really given an option of what to beleive. I was born into a family that wanted my to beleive one thing, and for a while I was convinced thats what I actually beleived. But when I realize I could have just as easily been born the daughter of a muslim women, I begin to think that religion is just a form a brainwashing so that there are more followers to that specific movement of beliefe.
I've not saying the whole institution of religion is full of crap, but perhaps more of it is mythology rather then FACT.
I myself beleive in the study of science. If there is evidence to prove it, then I'll beleive it. But at times you have to realize that media can be just as brainwashing as religion, along with every other source of informatiomn.
We never know if what we're being told is the truth. All we can do is choose to listen or not. I'm beginning to wonder if we're all just better off being taught by our parents.
I liked that one of my interviews was with a women from another country. Hearing about how different the school system is there helped me to realize that different cultures really have varying ways of doing things. The process of getting into college and finding a major in America is completely different then the process in Spain. I was blown away that Rebecca had the courage to go to another country for college, when I can hardly bare the thought of going to a school more then a few hours away from home.
I wonder if we're too babied in school, and if it may a better option to get as far away from out parents as possible in order to have the true feeling of independence.
Ahuvah Ellner braught up a good point about how Billgates got success without a college degree. Although many advisors and teachers recomend continuing education beyond high school, there are so many other neglected options that I feel are looked over because they are not of as high of a status as a while collar job.
Why is trade school not as talked about as graduate school and why aren't we taught more hands on courses?
More and more I've come to the conclusion that enviornment really shapes who you are. If you are born in the city, chances are you are more likely to me exposed to drugs sex and rock & roll far sooner then a kid in the suborbs too busy looking at cars and getting their learners permit. The values of a community greatly influences the institutions amung it, including school.
So how are we to really know what we really want or believe unless we experience all different aspects?
Travel across America, talk to a different person in a different town in a different state all across the country. Get the real story and they real opinions. School is just a stepping stone between growing up and becoming the person your destined to me.
School may give us a push, but its us that chooses the direction we take.
Sometimes I wish I had gone to a bigger High School in an area in the city farther from my house. But then again, I wouldn't be the girl I am today had I not gone to SOF.
I suppose I don't regret my mistakes, I only wish I had made them sooner.
Part A
Family Interview:
Robert Proto (54)- A high school and college graduate with a Bachelors degree in Business Administration from Baruch. He's lived in New York's LES all his life, attended a Parochial private High School, but transferred to public school for his in his sophomore year because he didn't like strict atmosphere of private school and he felt out of place and too immature there. He was apprehensive to go to public school at first because it had a reputation of being dangerous in those days, but at the time he was glad he transferred because it was easier.
Q: Do you regret transferring?
"In a lot of ways I regret it now because I feel like a quitter, I think I would have amounted out to more if I stuck it out and rose to the challenge."
Q: What do you think about your kids going to public school?
"The public School system today is considered safer, and since its not cheap to go to private school, I found a good public high schools for my daughters. I feel guilty some days for not giving them the very best, considering it may have been easier for them to get into the colleges they want if they came from a well known school."
Q: What did you want to get out of the education you pursued?
"One of the things I planned when I went to public HS was to take business courses, resorting to that because I didn't know what else to do with my life. I thought I'd be good at book keeping, the first step to accounting. I went to Baruch with intentions of studying to become an accountant. I got my first accounting course the second semester of my second year and got an A. When I got to my third year, I took the next step where my teacher said 'this is the class where we separate the men from the boys' and unfortunately I didn't do well. So the second term of my third year, instead of dropping accounting, I took the next course hoping I would improve; but I didn't. After I dropped accounting, I decided to pursue a field of computers. In my first semester of my 4Th year, but I didn't do very well but tried to continue in my second semester of my 4Th year. After the first or second week I felt lost, so I figure the best thing to do was drop out of college and just look for a job since I was making it at Baruch."
Q: How did it feel to be a college drop out?
"I felt very depressed and unsure of myself for dropping out, even though I felt out of place and lost being there. I was really concerned about how my mother would feel about me dropping out, and that made me hesitant. What finally put me at ease was a conversation with my younger brother.He told me he had talked to her about it, and that she had she said she knew I gave it a lot of thought and understood my decision.That gave me more courage to not be apprehensive about my instincts and just do what felt right."
One day Bob officially dropped out, and started looking for a job. His father made arrangements for interviews, and got hired as a senior clerk; a low level entry position in NYC health and Hospitals co.
"And that's where I met my wife who convinced me to get my bachelors because she said she wouldn't date anyone without a college degree. So a year after I left Baruch, I went back at night and finished me remaining courses. but I didn't attend my ceremony because I was embarrassed. I'm grateful to my wife for influencing me to go back."
Q- Would you ever go back to school?
"No. I don't have the motivation to put in the effort to go back to school to get another degree. I realize now how valuable education is, and I regret I never looked at it as a beneficial tool . It was only a burden and an unhappy experience. I'm sure If I had the chance to start over, I'd approach it more maturely. But I don't feel I want to pursue another degree because its no longer important or crucial for me in this time in my life. My wife always values education and rises to the challenge of education. I unfortunately don't rise to the challenge.
I always look at school as a negative experience in my life. I guess when I was a little child, I didn't want to be there and every year prior I felt upset because I wasn't very smart. I wasn't an ambitious individual and always wanted the easy way of life, not the challenge."
Q: What do you tell your kids about education, in respect to your experience?
I always wanted my wife to be the biggest influence on my kids to help them realize how crucial a good education is in life. Knowledge is power, and today I realize how true that is. Its power that can't be taken away from you. I hope that when my kids are in college, they realize how important it is to accomplish their goals. They talk about the "college experience" but I think that will only bring temporary happiness. I want my daughters to learn from my mistakes, and realize that its important to be the best person you can me . Sometimes its not always the person you wanted to become, but if you try to achieve what you want you can feel satisfied that you gave it your best. The only thing you should feel bad about in life is if you wanted something but didn't put in all the effort and regret it. But if you did put in your all, you would always know you gave tried. It doesn't mean your not successful, it just may mean that wasn't the right path for you and that you should look elsewhere."
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Jessica Proto (17)
Q:What has your experience with school been like?
Good, when I was in elementary school. I didn't have o do much, and life was easier. When I switched to a private Jewish reformed school in 4th grade, it was ok. The commuting was annoying but I liked being on the basketball team and being a part of something. Then I went to SOF for two years, which was ok at first but then got bad so I just stopped going. Then my parents forced me into a special private school called Robert Luis Stevenson. It was ok, I liked it but after a year I stopped going because it got stupid. Then my parents sent me away to boarding school which I hated at first but eventually got to liking because they has horse back riding and snow boarding and I made some friends. But these days I hate it because they treat people unfairly and look down on their students as delinquents and problem children.
Q:Whats your overall view of School?
"I don't really like school that much, I don't do homework or study for tests. Its stressful, I prefer doing projects because your given more time to do them then an assignment due the next day.
"My parents are influencing me to get my GED, but I'm not even sure if thats what I want. They expect me to be something I'm not. I don't always care about living up to their standards because I have my own. When I wanted to get my permit I got one...
I do want to go to college, but one my own terms and on my own time.
I want to be a social and child care worker when I grow up, so that I can help troubled people the way my social worker looks out for me."
Q: Whats the purpose of school?
To get an education, to learn new things in life. Its important to help you go somewhere i life, and without it you'll go nowhere.
Q:What have you leaned about yourself thanks to school?
Thanks to school, I've learned that I can be a fuck up. But that its important to do well and recognize when you need to make a change.
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Gail Proto (50) A Newtown High School and Baruch college graduate with a BBA in marketing and an MBA in business administration, she has worked for NYC Health and Hospitals Co for 32 years. Gail wasan only child born and raised in Jackson Hights Queens and aspired to be a clown as a child because she wanted to make people laugh.
Q: What is your greatest memory from High School?
"I was really good in this drama class, I surprised myself for having a little bit of talent. I had some wonderful friendships and it was fun getting to date a little bit. I remember being on the debate team and paper which was cool. It was an overall good experience, but I remember hating myself for not being cool enough by my own standards. I didn't find myself attractive until I was 18, so before then I was insecure especially due to my stutter."
Q: How was college?
"It was wonderful because I was away from home, making friends and was a growth experience. But it was helpful in a way that I was at a sleep away school for my first two years at Hofstra and then was forced to come home due to family problems where I then transfered to city school at Baruch. I was devistated having to leave, but then I realiozed how fun working was and even night school. People were much more interesting because they were actually in the business world. I had done book keeping work during the summers, so my first job wasn't so bad. My parents couldn't afford to send me away anymore, but making my own money felt so good that I didn't mind coming home so much."
Q: What are the motiviations of school?
"Its a wonderful educational and socializing experience. Theres emotional growith, there's intelectual growth and you learn to be part of a community. It teaches you how to deal with different tyoes of people. Whaen your in the working enviornemtn you have to deal with all different types of personalities, some being your bosses. I just love school. I love to grow and learn. I love it how when I learn one thing, all through out the day whovever I talk to, I can relate back to that thing. I find leanring fun, and RESEARCH is the most fun."
Q: Would you want to go back to school?
"I'm in school now! I'm taking a certificate program in Public Policy at the Murphy School of Professional Studies whick is a part of CUNY. Its exciting being back in school; enlightening because I feel like i'm growing again (at my age). And I'm planning on persuing a PHD next in... well i'm not sure yet, maybe public policy."
Q: What do you hope your kids will get out of School?
"I want them to get a good education. I hope they find a passion for something other then boys."
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Ahivah Ellner (57)- Went to Hunter College for nursing.
Q: When do you know you wanted to be a nurse?
"When I was 8 years old I was watching dr. Kildare, a show on T.V. and ever since I wanted to be a nurse."
Q: What was high school like for you?
"My parents moved from Manhatten to West chester which was a tramatic period in my life, I was a senior in High School. Initially, I didn't adjust well. But I eventually made friends with people who has similiar backgrounds as myself. I moved to a place of middle class to a place of higher class and could only relate to those more like myself. The students there lived in gated communities, the girls wore cahsmere sweaters. They all drove cars, and I came from the city to the subuors. I realized then that I was a true a city girl at heart, so I went to hunter colege in the city because it had a very good nursing program.
Q: What to you is the purpose of school?
I think basically what school does is give u a very basic foundation and requirements to get a degree. There aren't as many trade classes as there are profession classes. Trade classes are more done with your hands, but in this day and age its all about working at an office. White collar has better status then those who work with their hands and are blue collar. You don't need as much book knowledge as you may need for a business. But there plenty of people who are wildly successful who never went to college, like Bill gates.
Q: Would you ever go back to school?
"I would absolutely want to go back to school. I never went for my masters because getting my bachelors was so difficult. I regret it now, and therefore I will be looking into continuing education; even at my age. I have no ideas in what yet, perhaps for teaching purposes."
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Rebeca Vallejo (34)- Professional organizer/ musician (singer)
Q: What was School like in Spain?
"I was born and raised in Madrid, Spain. It was very different and the school system was really tough in Spain. You had so much to study and you had on entire year after high school and one year preparation for college entry exam According to the score on you exam, you are limited in choosing you field of study. In my own ranking I has an average score, I was really good in subjects and horrible in others. In the things I liked I put a lot of emphasis, and for the others I didn't care. But I wasn't required to take it because i was planning on going to college in Great Britain."
Q: What was the transition to college in another Country like?
"It was craziness to adapt at 19 to a different school system in a new country with a different language. Being on your own for the first time was tough, even by choice. Being away from your parents.
I went back to Spain for my masters when I was 22, for year and a half until I came to America. I wanted to pursue my dream of being a jazz singer, because where jazz was born. I worked and started my music career, started writing music and recorded my first album. About 5 years into moving here, I decided to go to city college for jazz studies."
Q: What was it like going back to school?
It was very very weird going back to school. There was a large variety of ages in my jazz program, all with the same goals as me. Sometimes int was strange learning in a classroom with people 10 years younger then me. It was a shocker, and I struggled a lot because I had to work a pay for school myself before I got a student loan. This was a very advanced program, so i had to catch up. It was very challenging.
But thank god I graduated with my degree, but my degree doesn't apply with anything I do now.
I have three degrees today, and thanks to my composition skills being stronger I got more confidence in my position, but now I am a professional organizer and I didn't really need any school for that.
It was an accident becoming an organizer. I realized I really liked space organizing,I have a mind for it. I started doing little jobs then by luck I was flipping through a magazine that spoke of space organizer. National Association of Professional Organizers, and it all kind of snowballed from there. That's also had its ups and downs, it was a bit slow in the beginning and hard in this economy.
My organizing profession kind of compliments my job as a Singer."
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Part B
People who are currently still in school greatly varry in answers to my questions then those who are done. The adults who I interviewed also varried in who was planning on going for another degree and the one who had no intentions on going back.
I got some really interesting insights, especially from my pops. He really kind of spooked me into beleiving that a life without the passion to learn is a life not worth living. Education is really the key to success, and although some may say ignorance is bliss, I've learning from my dad that knowledge has the power to make you happy. But having the patience and motivation to learn is hard work when your a teenager. Kids in American don't always appreciate what they've got unless their parents remind them of how lucky they got it. My parents had pretty comfortable lives themselves, so they have no need to lecture me on appreciation. But when I think of kids in 3rd world countries who are not so well off, I begin to feel selfish for not taking full advantage of the opportunities I am given so easily.
Another thing my dad brought up that no one else had was not feeling right for school. He had failed at the career he originally sought out and was ashamed for it. But he was more embarrassed with what his family, particularly his mother would think of him. I think in our society, school is considered so crucial for a fulfilling life that those who don't go are looked down upon, especially those who give up half way through. In my fathers case, he was just shy of graduating before he dropped out, something you rarely hear. But I see him as being brave, doing what he thought was right for him rather then right for fitting the mold of a twenty-something while blood American boy.
Its so imperative for students to be honest with themselves about what hey want and what their capable of so that they don't waste time pursuing a life they just THINK they want.
My dads response really sparked a lot of thought like that, which is why I liked his interview the best!
It seemed that for the younger subject (my older sis), she was more optimistic about the future. I mean Jessica and I have out whole lives ahead of us with an entire world to see and anything they can dream at their finger tips. Yet, according to the older prospects, all they need to succeed is to be driven and hard working.
Is it possible that having dreams just isn't enough to put it into action? I always thought having a goal at all was a huge first step, but when do we really learn the skills to make out dreams into a reality?
Are we given all the tools in High School to get into the right college that will help us the get the best job we can?
I'm beginning to believe its not always so easy, and even if your a braniac in school it doesn't necessarily mean your going to excel at what ever you do. Don't get m wrong, I'm sure it helps. But there are a lot of major components that add up to achievements. And this generation of teenagers usually learn this too late in the game.
I can't get out of my mind what Ben from East High said a couple weeks ago on the topic of the purpose of school:
"School is means to help students make choices and figure out how to put those choices in effect for the future." - Or something along those lines.
This got me thinking about the meaning of life and our unit of cool and all that fun stuff. We are sent out into society, given a system to follow then expected to know what to do once we hit the age or 22 and have already graduated college. I've been pampered, pressed and processed by my parents, teachers and bosses all to be molded into a good citizen of the united states. But has School really made me into the best person I can be?
Is it really all on us to make a good life for ourselvles, or should we hold some of these superiors responsible? And how can any of us ever know if the choices we're making are right? Isn't it all just trial and error? Then shouldn't we have more trials?
For the past hour, I haven't only been thinking about this institution of school but also how religious schools come into play. For instance sunday school, hebrew school, greek school? They are all additional suppliers of knowledge except its for a specific network of people belonging to that religion. I myself had to go to hebrew school from the age of 6 up until was 13. I couldn't have been more thrilled when I didn't have to go anymore. To me, those hebrew classes were agony. I didn't give a rats ass what the history of the Torah was. I realize now that all I was taught was valuable information about my culture, but at the time I was just bored out of my mind and counting down the minutes until I could be safe in my own household again.
When I look back, I wonder why my mother made me go all those years. I didn't get why she wanted me to be jewish so badly. She married me father and he wasn't jewish. Heck he isn't even religious at all. So why was she forcing traditions I loathed and ceremonies I didn't follow down my throat?
She said she wanted me to be a part of something bigger then myself, a way of having a closer relationship to god. But I didn't even know if I beleived in the guy, so it didn't really make a difference making an appearance at the synogouge every monday and wednesday. Evenetually I relaized it was all leading up to the big sacred honor; my batmitzvah.
According to wikipedia, a batmitzvah: "One of the most important events to take place during Jewish Education (LOL) is the celebration of the Bar or Batmitzvah... According to jewish law, a boy enters a adulthood at the age of 13, while a girl enters adulthood at the age of 12. The bar or bat mitzvah celebrates this coming of age and significes ones passage into adulthood."
Huh, I wonder how they landed on those ages. Because from person expereicne, my most immature ages probably ranged from 11 through 15.
My whole life I've had this aspect that religious is important shoved down my throat. I feel kind of cheated not because I was never really given an option of what to beleive. I was born into a family that wanted my to beleive one thing, and for a while I was convinced thats what I actually beleived. But when I realize I could have just as easily been born the daughter of a muslim women, I begin to think that religion is just a form a brainwashing so that there are more followers to that specific movement of beliefe.
I've not saying the whole institution of religion is full of crap, but perhaps more of it is mythology rather then FACT.
I myself beleive in the study of science. If there is evidence to prove it, then I'll beleive it. But at times you have to realize that media can be just as brainwashing as religion, along with every other source of informatiomn.
We never know if what we're being told is the truth. All we can do is choose to listen or not. I'm beginning to wonder if we're all just better off being taught by our parents.
I liked that one of my interviews was with a women from another country. Hearing about how different the school system is there helped me to realize that different cultures really have varying ways of doing things. The process of getting into college and finding a major in America is completely different then the process in Spain. I was blown away that Rebecca had the courage to go to another country for college, when I can hardly bare the thought of going to a school more then a few hours away from home.
I wonder if we're too babied in school, and if it may a better option to get as far away from out parents as possible in order to have the true feeling of independence.
Ahuvah Ellner braught up a good point about how Billgates got success without a college degree. Although many advisors and teachers recomend continuing education beyond high school, there are so many other neglected options that I feel are looked over because they are not of as high of a status as a while collar job.
Why is trade school not as talked about as graduate school and why aren't we taught more hands on courses?
More and more I've come to the conclusion that enviornment really shapes who you are. If you are born in the city, chances are you are more likely to me exposed to drugs sex and rock & roll far sooner then a kid in the suborbs too busy looking at cars and getting their learners permit. The values of a community greatly influences the institutions amung it, including school.
So how are we to really know what we really want or believe unless we experience all different aspects?
Travel across America, talk to a different person in a different town in a different state all across the country. Get the real story and they real opinions. School is just a stepping stone between growing up and becoming the person your destined to me.
School may give us a push, but its us that chooses the direction we take.
Sometimes I wish I had gone to a bigger High School in an area in the city farther from my house. But then again, I wouldn't be the girl I am today had I not gone to SOF.
I suppose I don't regret my mistakes, I only wish I had made them sooner.
Monday, February 8, 2010
Hw # 39: 1st School Assignment yurrr
Part A: Major Components of School
Students- School differ in student size, diversity and level of intelligence.
Do students take their education for granted compared to children in 3rd world countries who don't have the same opportunities?
How might people and society be different if children were home schooled and parents were left to teach them?
Whats the history of school and why has it evolved to what it is today? How can we improve it for the future?
Teacher Student relationships-
Part B: Going to school is a right of passage for all children. When you hit that glorious age of 5 years old, its time to buy presentable clothing, fill up an oversize backpack with fun new utensils and venture into the educational unknown.
I can imagine that the first day of school is quite frightening to little ones, either for pre-school of kindergarten. As for me, I was lucky enough to have my big sister in the same grade as me so I wasn't going through anything alone. Regardless, the separation between a child and their comfy nurturing homes are difficult .
School is a different experience for all children of all different ages. With each passing year, we grow a little more in height and in intelligence. Its odd to think the power and influence teachers have over children who look to then for guidance in education.
All through elementary school teacher's are looked upon as the experts of the world. Adults who are brilliant and have already memorized all there is a need to know about everything. At least that's what I thought until I realized my 7th grade science teacher was a moron. But regardless, teachers hold an enormous amount of power over youngsters who seek insight into the future from them.
The fellow from East High who visited yesterday said "School helps you make choices for the future and prepares you for the choices you'll have to make in the future."
Well, if that's so then I'd expect some exceptional superiors prepping me for the unknown.
Sometimes I really hate the politics of school. For instance, I hate that private schools are considered more prestigious because they attract elite enrollment unless your a braniac with a scholarship. I hate that all the best teachers go to them. It'd be easy for my to blame my lack of motivation and interest in certain subjects on the teachers who are supposed to keep my engaged and encourage me. But the truth of the matter is that no kids will learn unless their willing to, unless they really want to.
We're so selfish, complaining about the heavy work load or annoyance with an assignment, when children in third world countries would do anything to have the opportunities we have. Kids in china work their asses off all so they can be in the top ranking of their class, go on to a good college and escape the poverty they've grown up with. Education is their golden ticket out, while for the pot head while male living on the upper west side its a time killer between the next orgy beer fest.
Its sickening how much this society takes its education for granted.
Sometimes I wonder how might we be different if we left our parents to teach us at home.
Ali Jo is one of the smartest people I've ever met, the smartest from my generation and she was home schooled until the age of 9 (if I remember correctly). Maybe we'd all be better off just continuing with the knowledge our parents have. How might our society be different then? Would parents do more for their kids, brush up on more math, spend more time getting to know them? Or would we just be ignorant mini- clones of people who already exist?
Wasn't there a time, though, before we had the institution of school. Where it was just a privilege, an HONOR for girls?
Why does socializing continue to be more important then studying and how can we get the next generation to not be so goddamn superficial?
Students- School differ in student size, diversity and level of intelligence.
Do students take their education for granted compared to children in 3rd world countries who don't have the same opportunities?
How might people and society be different if children were home schooled and parents were left to teach them?
Whats the history of school and why has it evolved to what it is today? How can we improve it for the future?
Teacher Student relationships-
Part B: Going to school is a right of passage for all children. When you hit that glorious age of 5 years old, its time to buy presentable clothing, fill up an oversize backpack with fun new utensils and venture into the educational unknown.
I can imagine that the first day of school is quite frightening to little ones, either for pre-school of kindergarten. As for me, I was lucky enough to have my big sister in the same grade as me so I wasn't going through anything alone. Regardless, the separation between a child and their comfy nurturing homes are difficult .
School is a different experience for all children of all different ages. With each passing year, we grow a little more in height and in intelligence. Its odd to think the power and influence teachers have over children who look to then for guidance in education.
All through elementary school teacher's are looked upon as the experts of the world. Adults who are brilliant and have already memorized all there is a need to know about everything. At least that's what I thought until I realized my 7th grade science teacher was a moron. But regardless, teachers hold an enormous amount of power over youngsters who seek insight into the future from them.
The fellow from East High who visited yesterday said "School helps you make choices for the future and prepares you for the choices you'll have to make in the future."
Well, if that's so then I'd expect some exceptional superiors prepping me for the unknown.
Sometimes I really hate the politics of school. For instance, I hate that private schools are considered more prestigious because they attract elite enrollment unless your a braniac with a scholarship. I hate that all the best teachers go to them. It'd be easy for my to blame my lack of motivation and interest in certain subjects on the teachers who are supposed to keep my engaged and encourage me. But the truth of the matter is that no kids will learn unless their willing to, unless they really want to.
We're so selfish, complaining about the heavy work load or annoyance with an assignment, when children in third world countries would do anything to have the opportunities we have. Kids in china work their asses off all so they can be in the top ranking of their class, go on to a good college and escape the poverty they've grown up with. Education is their golden ticket out, while for the pot head while male living on the upper west side its a time killer between the next orgy beer fest.
Its sickening how much this society takes its education for granted.
Sometimes I wonder how might we be different if we left our parents to teach us at home.
Ali Jo is one of the smartest people I've ever met, the smartest from my generation and she was home schooled until the age of 9 (if I remember correctly). Maybe we'd all be better off just continuing with the knowledge our parents have. How might our society be different then? Would parents do more for their kids, brush up on more math, spend more time getting to know them? Or would we just be ignorant mini- clones of people who already exist?
Wasn't there a time, though, before we had the institution of school. Where it was just a privilege, an HONOR for girls?
Why does socializing continue to be more important then studying and how can we get the next generation to not be so goddamn superficial?
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